Wow

I've come up with a number of theories on relationships. And last night, after a chat with another friend, i realized that this theory is valid. This is how it goes...

In every age group of women, there are different 'types'. In my age group also, women can be categorized. The type I'm most familiar with is the type who is intelligent, hard-working, moderately ambitious, self-reliant, very well read, and completely the opposite of shallow. Let's call this the Type "W" personality('W'=wow). This type of woman usually has a fantastic sense of humor, can make most men feel intimidated, and can flaw a group with her brilliantly witty comebacks. She's an individual and she knows it. She's not embarrassed to have needs, she knows she has the right more than anyone else. She's not afraid to ask for what she wants. And mostly, she is not afraid to let herself dream. Big dreams. In essence, she's today's woman. Smart and successful but also with a good heart.

Now, a lot of these women are married, and rightfully so. They've found the people they want to be with and surely, they deserve it. But they are definitely the lucky ones. They've found their diamonds in the rust. The rest of Type "W"s are still searching. Why? Because they're still looking for something exceptional. Someone who will keep up with them, who will understand their individuality, and who will not only 'get them' but encourage them to express themselves even more emphatically.

Fortunately, these men do exist. I know its hard to believe, but they do. Somewhere, in some corner of the world, they do exist. They're working hard, making lots of money, going to the best schools, wanting to be intellectual and confident, at the same time being nice, warm, and friendly. You'd be most likely to meet these men at really great parties, where people are interested in doing more than passing out under the effect of way too much alcohol. These men will be quite able to have a conversation with you, express their opinions, match your retorts with equally witty ones, and even get your sarcasm(and lets face it, most men couldn't tell sarcasm if it hit them right in the face). What's even better is that these men can hold their own on the dance floor. So basically...these are exceptional men. You've found someone who's like you, except that he's a man. And there's finally some hope because you're letting yourself believe that he's perfect for you.

But thats when it happens. The realization suddenly dawns on you. And the irony of it is astounding, to say the least. These exceptional men... they don't want you. At all. They're all you've ever wanted and you've finally found your match, but he's not interested in you. You know what he really wants? He wants an old fashioned, most-likely domesticated, simple Indian girl, who'll stay in his shadow, and not make too many demands on him. Thats what he really wants. Its true. I've seen it. I know i could get in trouble for saying all this, but its shocked me in the past to see these so-called 'fab' men, looking for women who won't compete with them. Its against the laws of nature. It negates all the fabulousness of the exceptional man and makes you think that your idea of 'exceptional' is probably a bit erroneous.

And that my friends, sucks like nothing else has sucked. Cos then...all your idealism can go down the drain...there's no point of it. You have to compromise and be happy with another type of man. This other type is usually your friend...your best friend even...he cares for you and understands you, but doesn't lead the life you thought you wanted to live. But its this guy who'll really let you be an individual. Its this type of person who's the real gem, and its this type who'll really make you proud.

Or is it?